I worked with a new client this morning. She is awesome. All my clients are awesome.
This client, whom I will refer to as Client (all names are changed to protect the innocent), and I worked on her tween daughter’s room. Client sorted her daughter’s clothes into “keep” and “donate” piles while I worked on the physical space in the room.
As is often the case, the topic of Socks came up. And I capitalized “Socks” because Socks are a big issue. More specifically, the topic of the big pile / basket / bag of unmatched, unloved and slightly scary Socks came up.
Come on, you know the basket. The one that lurks in shadows, ready to take on more cast offs, silently judging you and draining your mental energy day in and day out? Yes, that one.
Let me share with you some truths that I shared with Client this morning:
- Some of us judge ourselves far more harshly than we deserve.
- Just because friends don’t talk about this on Facebook doesn’t mean that others aren’t fighting the same struggle. You are not alone. Lots of people have too many Socks (and other things).
- MORE IMPORTANTLY,
- Possession of all these Socks does not make you a bad, lazy or crazy person.
- Possession of all these Socks causes negative self-talk as we choose yet again to go about our day of Family and Work and Volunteering and finally Bed (all very important things!!) instead of dealing with those cursed Socks (not nearly as important).
- You are awesome, and the quality of your character is not determined by a basket of Socks.
And, for your peace of mind, if you want to conquer Sock Mountain, try these:
- Wash the Socks. Check under beds and couches, and wash them all. One nasty soccer sock really can ruin the whole basket.
- Once clean, collect them all. Yes, All. Check the sock drawers for rogue lone rangers.
- Enlist Aid. All of these Socks are not yours (probably). This project will go more quickly with more hands.
- At least try. Some clients have suggested chucking all the Socks and starting over, but this is terribly wasteful and we won’t learn anything from that strategy.
- Change your location. If the laundry room is not well lit or cheerful, move the basket to your bedroom or the kitchen counter, or somewhere else that will inspire and motivate you.
- Line the unmatched Socks up by size and dominant color, to make matching them up easier.
- Luckily, these days, especially in the world of tween girls, unmatched Socks are cool and fun!
- Set a lower limit and an upper limit. Many times a session with my clients, I will ask “How much is enough?” and “How many is too many?” For example, set your Enough for 30 (or some other number) pairs. Pick your favorite 30 and pair them up. Now you can look at little more critically at the leftovers.
- Recognize that those Socks, at least some of them, ended up in the basket for a reason, and may no longer be needed and useful.
- Set a timer. We can do anything, even if we don’t like to, for a short period of time. Watching a show? Great. Grab the basket, dump it out, and get to it until the buzzer rings. Then put away the matched Socks, and donate the rest.
So, be nice to yourself this week about your Socks and anything else, be honest with others, and spend a little time and tackle this common problem!