I talk.  A lot.  I strike up conversations with anyone anywhere.  My husband never worries about me being lonely if he takes me to some event because soon enough, I’m chatting with someone.  I meet great people and learn new things all the time.  I don’t talk to people solely for information gathering, but it’s a great side benefit! 

     A client was struggling last week with decision making, and I suggested she gather more information about a particularly important and weighty decision.  Ask the experts.  Talk to people.

     After a personal sharing of parenting struggles last week, a different client said she had never stated these things out loud, and that it is too bad we all don’t talk about these things because we could learn from each other.  Solution?  Talk to people. 

     Recently, a fellow organizer helped me change my NAPO Chicago profile address because I’m eliminating my post office box.  She is considering using a P.O. Box, so she asked why I was letting mine go, and I was happy to answer.  Direct, efficient, weighing opinions and facts – awesome.   

     You know smart and helpful and friendly people.  And if you don’t, well, you probably do, but if you don’t, you know people who know smart, helpful and friendly people.

     We still have to act, of course, in addition to talking, but we can learn a lot from each other if we ask the right people the right questions.  So, talk to people.

Ask Experts.   I don’t know how to set up a limited liability company, but I have a wonderful friend and attorney who does.  I don’t know what authors are popular with young adults, but the nice lady who owns the used book store does.

     I don’t know how to move my porch light to make room for the new awning I want installed, but my friend the electrician does and he’s stopping by later.

     I don’t know if a seller can expect a higher price on their home if they paint inside first, but I have a friend who is both a realtor and a house painter, and he’ll tell me. 

     I don’t know a lot of things, but I do know a lot of people, and they’ll help.  And remember, some suggestions are free and some you have to pay for.  Ask Experts questions, but don’t be a nuisance.

Stretch your mind and stretch your circle:  Sometimes you have to stretch your social circles to broaden your range of answers.  Ask your friends to ask their friends, to stretch outside your usual circle for new insight and ideas.

Talk to people, but consider the source.  Ask for opinions, but recognize that which friends are more negative or positive than others.

Ask for opinions, but be specific.  Your friend may rate a business or experience on criteria other than yours, so ask for specifics to back up a recommendation or referral.  If you are looking for a new physician, specify the type, or your geographical region or insurance provider.  Be specific when you answer questions, too.  I love my pediatrician because he is really good, very close to home and will always make room in his schedule for us.  On the other hand, others might not like that he is quick with his exams and explanations.  So I always tell both sides. 

Talk to yourself.  Yes, I really did just suggest that you talk to yourself.  Some of us are auditory learners, which means we learn by hearing.  When I edit articles or an email, I read the content aloud to determine if I said what I meant to say.  And my family clears the room, like they just did as I edit this article.

     I recently opened up a new business checking account, and had two accounts for a month while the last of the checks cleared the old account.  When I was catching up on my bookkeeping yesterday on Quicken, I struggled for half an hour about how to account for 2 different monthly ending balances, fees paid and reimbursed, etc.  Luckily, I live with a CPA (for whom I am eternally grateful), and I asked him for help.  However, I figured out what I needed to do just by explaining it aloud to him.  Hearing the description of the problem led me to the right solution, while my hubby nodded sagely a lot, and then confirmed that I was correct (which is good, since he’ll have to look at it all again in 10 months at Tax time!!).

     So, if you are struggling this week with decisions or options, look around at the people you know, ask some specific questions, get some new ideas and get talking!