(Update, 08.28.2021: More resources to share!!
“Streaming services and Apps: Look for Headspace programing in Netflix, and Calm has a series on HBO Max.” (Per Real Simple, June 2021)

“For musical accompaniment while walking, composer Murray Hidary offers 30- and 60- minutes SilentWalk meditations, available to download for free at mindtravel.com” (Per Real Simple, June 2021)

The Breathing IQ, https://www.thebreathingiq.com/, “Helping The World Catch Their Breath”


Twice last week, I hopped on calls with clients who were stressed out. It happens to us all, and wow, do I understand that. But with both of these folks, because they are coaching clients and we can talk about these types of things, I asked if we could start our session with some square breathing.

Breathe in for 4 counts, hold it for 4 counts, release for 4 counts and hold for 4 counts. (4x4x4x4 makes a square). We did this for a few cycles and then started fresh.

(BTW, I am not yelling in this post though the type is bolded throughout. Many readers have informed me that the text color is too light for easy reading, and since WordPress… well, never mind about that but I can’t choose black as a text color, so I am just BOLDING my whole article from now on).

At Mass this weekend, we heard “Peace Be With You. I say again, Peace… and then He breathed on them…” And I was reminded again how peace and deep breathing are connected.

Organizing, like many things in life, can be difficult and stressful. When we square off to ‘do that tough thing’, we may tense up, breathe shallowly. Our heart rate increases and we prove to our body that organizing is hard.

You’ve heard the term “Fight or Flight Response”, or stress response? It describes the physical changes our body goes through when we are faced with a stressful situation. And the above description of shallow and rapid breathing, increased hear rate and physical tension is just a partial list of how our body reacts.

I’m not going to suggest that we don’t have stress or that we can avoid it completely, but I can suggest that our response options can be more than Fight or Run Away. Let’s check out some tools to help us manage our stress in life and organizing!


Deep breathing:

Above, I gave the example of square breathing. You can also try Triangle Breathing, if you find it more comfortable. Inhale for 3, exhale for 3, and hold at either side for 3 counts as well.

You can take your deep breathing on the fly, too, and pace your breathing to your steps as you walk. In addition, you can use this to help others around you. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but we tend to match the pace of the breath of folks around us. If we are around people feeling anxious and breathing quick and shallow (Not good!), we tend to start to do that. With intentional deep breathing, we can set the tone, help ourselves and perhaps others.


Body Scan:

Check in with your body. Like a million times a day. Even as I write this, thanks to the reminder, I have sat a little straighter in my seat, relaxed my shoulders, arms, jaw and forehead, and taken a few deep breaths.


Find daily reminders:

An instructor I had recommended finding reminders through her days for relaxation. She would use stopping at red lights, elevator rides, standing in line, etc., all common occurrences and sometimes stressful, to deep breathe, relax muscles, think positive thoughts, etc. I also like tangible reminders, like a rosary in my pocket or a worry stone, or the whiff of a essential oil.

Meditation and Mindfulness:

For the first 40-something years of my life, I had convinced myself that meditation was not for me because I would never be the person to sit still for 30 minutes.

I’ve learned that meditation and mindfulness can be found and embraced in small pieces through out our days.

I recognize that most organized religions incorporate meditation in the form of prayer into their faith practice.

I look forward to getting our deck project complete so I can meditate on summer evenings, but I also use the Calm App for quick guided meditations and soothing sounds into my background noise.

(I also use an amazing technique called EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping. I am not the expert, but I know one, so let me know if you want to know more!)

How can you incorporate these tools into your day? Manage your stress, feel better and accomplish more with less worry in your days!