Category: Productivity

Let’s get back to “Because… of External Motivators.”

I helped a client move out an old book shelf today to the curb. Because… tomorrow is trash day.

I spent time last evening with my bookkeeping and readied some invoices to send. Because… it’s the last few days of the month and I send out my billing on the last day of the month.

I reached out to a loved one today first thing. Because… it’s her birthday.

My husband left the house this morning at 6 am to catch the 6:25 am train. Because… well, that’s when it was scheduled to arrive.

I worked today instead of laying on my couch, eating snacks and doing nothing. Because… well, because I would be bored silly doing nothing, but also because… I get paid to work, I like to work and I like to get paid. Money is useful.

These are all examples of External Motivators. Motivation that comes from outside ourselves, from outside forces or sources.

This can backfire, of course, if we ONLY choose to take out the trash because it’s trash day, as opposed to taking it out because the bin is full or something is getting smelly.

It occurs to me that life may have been light in the area of external motivators during the last year. Perhaps we ignored reminders to make doctor appointments because of strict guidelines or social distancing. I just read a New Yorker article about how we haven’t had to Get Dressed in 16 months or so. Perhaps we haven’t tidied up the house too much because previously the expectation of hospitality was our motivator, but after we were unable to host for many months, our practices have grown lax.

As we return to slightly more normal routines, let’s start paying attention to – AGAIN – and get back in the habit of heeding external motivators!

Stressed? Breathe With Me.

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(Update, 08.28.2021: More resources to share!!
“Streaming services and Apps: Look for Headspace programing in Netflix, and Calm has a series on HBO Max.” (Per Real Simple, June 2021)


“For musical accompaniment while walking, composer Murray Hidary offers 30- and 60- minutes SilentWalk meditations, available to download for free at mindtravel.com” (Per Real Simple, June 2021)

The Breathing IQ, https://www.thebreathingiq.com/, “Helping The World Catch Their Breath”


Twice last week, I hopped on calls with clients who were stressed out. It happens to us all, and wow, do I understand that. But with both of these folks, because they are coaching clients and we can talk about these types of things, I asked if we could start our session with some square breathing.

Breathe in for 4 counts, hold it for 4 counts, release for 4 counts and hold for 4 counts. (4x4x4x4 makes a square). We did this for a few cycles and then started fresh.

(BTW, I am not yelling in this post though the type is bolded throughout. Many readers have informed me that the text color is too light for easy reading, and since WordPress… well, never mind about that but I can’t choose black as a text color, so I am just BOLDING my whole article from now on).

At Mass this weekend, we heard “Peace Be With You. I say again, Peace… and then He breathed on them…” And I was reminded again how peace and deep breathing are connected.

Organizing, like many things in life, can be difficult and stressful. When we square off to ‘do that tough thing’, we may tense up, breathe shallowly. Our heart rate increases and we prove to our body that organizing is hard.

You’ve heard the term “Fight or Flight Response”, or stress response? It describes the physical changes our body goes through when we are faced with a stressful situation. And the above description of shallow and rapid breathing, increased hear rate and physical tension is just a partial list of how our body reacts.

I’m not going to suggest that we don’t have stress or that we can avoid it completely, but I can suggest that our response options can be more than Fight or Run Away. Let’s check out some tools to help us manage our stress in life and organizing!


Deep breathing:

Above, I gave the example of square breathing. You can also try Triangle Breathing, if you find it more comfortable. Inhale for 3, exhale for 3, and hold at either side for 3 counts as well.

You can take your deep breathing on the fly, too, and pace your breathing to your steps as you walk. In addition, you can use this to help others around you. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but we tend to match the pace of the breath of folks around us. If we are around people feeling anxious and breathing quick and shallow (Not good!), we tend to start to do that. With intentional deep breathing, we can set the tone, help ourselves and perhaps others.


Body Scan:

Check in with your body. Like a million times a day. Even as I write this, thanks to the reminder, I have sat a little straighter in my seat, relaxed my shoulders, arms, jaw and forehead, and taken a few deep breaths.


Find daily reminders:

An instructor I had recommended finding reminders through her days for relaxation. She would use stopping at red lights, elevator rides, standing in line, etc., all common occurrences and sometimes stressful, to deep breathe, relax muscles, think positive thoughts, etc. I also like tangible reminders, like a rosary in my pocket or a worry stone, or the whiff of a essential oil.


Meditation and Mindfulness:

For the first 40-something years of my life, I had convinced myself that meditation was not for me because I would never be the person to sit still for 30 minutes.

I’ve learned that meditation and mindfulness can be found and embraced in small pieces through out our days.

I recognize that most organized religions incorporate meditation in the form of prayer into their faith practice.

I look forward to getting our deck project complete so I can meditate on summer evenings, but I also use the Calm App for quick guided meditations and soothing sounds into my background noise.

(I also use an amazing technique called EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping. I am not the expert, but I know one, so let me know if you want to know more!)

How can you incorporate these tools into your day? Manage your stress, feel better and accomplish more with less worry in your days!



Filing is For Retrieval, Not For Storage

I gave two presentations yesterday – well the same presentation to two different audiences – and I think I said this phrase a dozen times each. Filing is for retrieval, not for storage.

It is one of the first statements I make in my Clear the Clutter presentation, and I actually broke it down word by word for one of the groups. What can I say, I was inspired!

It can be a guiding phrase for us as we clear clutter from our home. Consider it a mantra! And here is a summary of all those 7 words can mean for you and me!

Filing.

Filing = putting things way.

Filing can be putting ANYTHING away, and not just papers. AWAY is the goal for organizing and clearing clutter. Putting clean laundry away is filing. Emptying the dishwasher and putting the dishes away is filing. Hanging up your coat when you come in the house is filing.

Filing is putting things away so you can expect to easily find them again.

Filing is for Retrieval, not for storage.

Retrieval = using again.

We put things away where they belong so we can find them again the next time we need them.

We expect to use things again, and we expect to use certain things together. We store related items together. We can ask ourselves “In what context will I need this item again?”

Sure, we could file our credit cards in a desk drawer, but that is not where we are going to use them, to retrieve them, again.

In our house, we store shoes in our closets, but we also keep a few pairs by the door because we use shoes when we leave the house. We use them all the time, and place them by the door for easy retrieval.

Not For Storage.

Not for Storage = Use your stuff, don’t just store your stuff

Most of us do not have unlimited storage.

I mean, hey – if you do, Good on you, we’re all just jealous. But most of us do not. And because storage is not limitless, we need to put limits on the stuff that we might store in our homes or businesses.

We should only be putting away the things that we actually expect to use again.

Now, sometimes we put something away, like a paid bill for reference, that we feasibly do expect to retrieve again. However, as the bill lingers, it becomes obsolete and grows less likely to be retrieved. We need to add in maintenance steps to our systems to purge those obsolete resources – papers, clothes, books, etc., once we no longer need them.

Next time you’re pondering a pile of clutter, and considering just tucking it in a drawer or in a bin, first remind yourself that “Filing is for retrieval, not for storage”. Maybe that pile of clutter just needs to GO instead of stay!

Enough But Not Too Much

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We traveled last week.

It was lovely.  We went to Michigan and relaxed at a house on a lake. 

The lake life is quieter and simple, especially this time of year.  We did manage to visit a nearby beach town for lunch one day (outdoors), and dipped our toes in Lake Michigan (it was 80 degrees that day!).  I also got to see my parents and one of my brothers, with masks and social distance of course, for the first time in a very long time. Hooray! But mostly we relaxed.

What I want to talk about is the variety of choices we make every day. ALL OF THE DECISIONS!

I was reminded how much of a relief it is, at times, to just have fewer choices, fewer decisions.

For example, we did a grocery run and bought we needed for 4 1/2 days, and not much more. 

At the lake house, there are things to do but … fewer than at home or during the summer.

I was reminded, as I packed for travel: we decide on what we will need, based on our plans and habits and routines and the weather, for a finite amount of time and  pack only those things (and maybe a few extra!). Getting ready is easier.  Decisions were made when I packed, so day to day I choose between jeans or a skort, sandals or sneakers.  Easy.

Simple.  Straightforward. Easier decisions, less mental clutter.

Enough but not too much. This is what being organized represents for me. What clearing clutter means to me.

I have been struggling today with a whole lot of mental clutter and the feeling of overwhelm.  Some of this can be attributed to what my friend and I call “Re-Entry”, those few days after you get home from a trip. And let’s face it – after the last year, we are out of practice with travel and the tasks around coming-home!  But I also recognized that life has been much simpler this last week. That I enjoyed the simpler schedule and fewer decisions (and sleeping in and enjoying time off, of course). 

I needed the reminder that I need Enough but not too much. Of EVERYTHING!

I’d like to learn from this awareness, for myself. I know these lessons. We probably all do. But we still need reminders and that’s how I will use this awareness. So…

I will gladly embrace my daily routines that keep my wellness and home and business humming along, taking time-wasting decision making out of my brain!

I will stop trying to complicate my days with many new ideas all at once!

I will look at fewer choices on how to spend my time and be more purposeful and intentional with my choice.

I will step back and pay attention to those instances in my days when I need to make choices. I will refer to the short list of focus areas where I want to and need to spend my time, and stick with just those when time or attention seem short.

Let’s stick with enough, but not too much.

Where can you go with that mantra this week? Cutting out time commitments, errands, clutter, wardrobe choices, visual stimuli? What can go, to simplify your day or week?

How to Break the “Just One More Thing” Habit

This is not what I had planned to write about this week, but readers asked for More! when I admitted in last week’s newsletter that I had and also conquered my tendency for “Just One More Thing!”.

You know, “Just One More Thing!”? As in … we need to leave in 5 minutes, of course I have time to write 3 emails, or start a load of laundry, or make one more phone call.

Perhaps you have this tendency, too? It is well intentioned. For me, I just wanted to get as much done as I could so I would wring productivity out of every last SECOND of my day. Except, this practice is not very productive and it occasionally tripped me up. It might only impact me or you, but the more complicated our schedules become, the more likely this habit is to impact others negatively as well.

20 years ago, I often fell into this flawed thinking, and this judgement error was exacerbated by the fact that I was the mother of small children. Even if I thought I had an extra 5 minutes, we all know how quickly those can pass as we assemble socks or shoes or backpacks for school. And I was also setting a bad example, pushing-pushing-pushing the deadline for leaving on-time to arrive on-time. (*You could swap out child references with co-workers in the above sentence and draw the same conclusions.)

What about leaving for work or for home or anywhere else you need to get to on time? “Just One More Thing” only works when everything else works exactly as planned. And we also all know that day-to-day life rarely works exactly as planned. There is a last minute search for keys or phone, slow elevators, traffic or bad weather, and as one thing leads to another, we find ourselves rushing around, arriving late and out of sorts.

I recognized and began to remedy my issue of “Just One More Thing” when I worked downtown and commuted on the train. If I drove, it didn’t matter if I left my office a few minutes late. I could just make it up on the drive or get home a few minutes late. No biggee. BUT… if I didn’t leave my office at 4:55 pm, I would not be on the Blue Line Platform in time to catch the EL train to the Metra station to get on the train that got me home by 6:05. Trains don’t care about “Just One More Thing”. Instead, I would have to take the next train that arrived half an hour later and made more stops. And that made a BIG difference.

WHY should you break the “Just One More Thing” Habit?

Why? Because you’re not a jerk. “Wait, Coll, how could ‘Just One More Thing’ make me a jerk?” Late for meetings, drop-offs or pick-ups? And what if you’re the one who called the meeting?! Unreliable? Missed deadlines?


Why? Because you respect yourself. Last week, a friend (you know who you are!) mentioned the words “self-sabotage” when she commented on my “Just One More Thing” admission. Ouch. Hard truth, but truth nonetheless. We have to respect our own boundaries. And we can’t expect others to respect our boundaries if we do not.

Why? Because there is value in “calm”. Or “On-time”, or reliable or consistent, or having time to say Hi to a friend or sitting in your favorite seat at the meeting because you didn’t succumb to “Just One More Thing”. (Find your why and remind yourself!)

Here’s How to Break the “Just One More Thing Habit”:

Realistic Time Estimates: Know how long tasks take. If you have 10 minutes, what can you really accomplish in that time? Two 5 minute tasks or one 10 minute task and nothing more. Nothing more than 10 minutes in 10 minutes! OR… one short task and take a few minutes for a deep breath and an early start. (I know we just talked about realistic time estimates in a recent article, but it bears repeating!)

To Do Lists: Keep a to-do list, so your tasks and ideas are reliably collected and you don’t have to worry so much about JUST ONE MORE THING before you leave the house, go to your meeting, etc. With a reliable list, you can pick up where you left off.

If you really only have 5 minutes right now, “send out the ships” to others first. My accountability partner uses the term “sending out ships” to describe those communications that require a reply or action from others.



I know my pace for work. I do not know, or presume to know, other people’s pace for work. Therefore, I try to send out requests or messages to others ASAP to give time to answer. Then I make a note of when I sent the message or request, when I need to follow up, tack on a great bit WAIT and then move that task to that future time or date. As I write about sending out ships, it feels like a matter of prioritizing, and perhaps it is. But this strategy helps me communicate more effectively and focus in on what really needs to be said or done. Which leads me to….

Prioritize. When we have limited time to complete a long list of tasks, we have to identify what has to get done right now and what can wait. Don’t get distracted by shiny things or loud requests. (Loud and shiny don’t make a task important.)

Know Your Absolute Deadline, and add time in from there. Check your traffic app for commute time, check the weather for possible storms, know your route and a few alternatives. No matter how well intentioned we are, we cannot travel back in time. (Trust me, I’ve tried.)

Give Yourself Grace, as you figure this out. For goodness sake, be as kind to you as you are to others and cut yourself some slack. Forgiving yourself ahead of time for NOT doing “Just One More Thing” is a good place to start!

To-Do List: What Is It? What’s On It? and How To Choose For Yourself?

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Productivity and Progress flourish with a clear vision of what DOES and DOES NOT need to be done right now. And this clear vision starts with a good To-Do List!

As we get started, I need to share a few truths:

Yes, you need a to-do list, and not just one in your head. No, you will not remember.

If you won’t keep one for yourself, do it for others as other people rely on you to get things done, too.

I know how I use my To-Do lists but I was curious about how other people use theirs. I asked my Facebook community last week to share their insight around tasks and to-do lists. I know AMAZING people and they were forthcoming with their answers to these questions:

  • Do you keep a to-do list?
  • How do you track your tasks-to-do?
  • Are you a paper person or electronic person, or a mix?
  • Anything else you’d like to add, of note?

It turns out, people have strong thoughts about To-Do lists! My questions were mostly answered by folks who embrace to-do lists.  I did not receive any “No” responses, so either my FB tribe generally keeps to-do lists, or anyone who does not didn’t respond.

I quickly realized that this topic would take multiple articles to cover adequately! This week, let’s talk about what is ON a to-do list, and what is the right way to keep your to-do list (spoiler alert, there is no one “right way”!)

What IS a To-Do List? And WHAT is on it?

  • A To-Do List is a physical or digital list of tasks and errands you need to complete, often sorted by date, time or priority.
  • A To-Do List is a component of a productive day and of an effective planner. 
    • A planner is the composite pieces of a calendar, to-do list, contact information, goals, routines, etc.
    • Appointments are scheduled events.
    • Routines can be part of your To-Do Lists, or not. You can add your daily routine to your to-do list if you like, or if you are working on establishing new habits.  But you will have to decide for yourself if “Get Up” or “eat breakfast” need to be on your to-do list.  
  • An important feature of a good to-do list is the option to keep track of future tasks.
    • Keeping a long-term to-do list helps to turn ideas into actions (I should buy new deck furniture in the Spring”, or “next Christmas I would really like host a party”) and
    • Gives our brains a break from the pressure of remembering ALL THE DETAILS ALL THE TIME. (exhausting!)
  • I spoke recently about to-do lists with a client. He defined them as “the tasks that need to be jotted down for the in-between times.” Meaning, he won’t forget to get up, eat breakfast or walk the dog.  He also won’t forget to go to work or complete his work.  But he might need to remember to make a hair cut appointment, pick up a birthday gift for his mom or take in his truck for an oil change.  

How Do I Choose The Right Way To Keep My To-Do List?

The question is often “Tech or Paper?” when it comes to To-Do lists. However, reviewing the responses this past week, I am happy to report most people use a blend of platforms and tools for different situations and outcomes.

The choice between Paper or Tech does not determine success. MAKING the choice and USING the tools determines success. Don’t be afraid to be wrong! The Best To-Do List is the one you will actually use.

I’ve been asked recently to recommend a planner for a reader starting their own business. Regrettably, that isn’t something I can do. A planner, or for today’s article, a platform for a To-Do list, is a very personal choice. I can coach around determining necessary features or talk through the pros and cons of different types, but I can’t tell someone what kind of planner to use.

Consider a Blend!

  • If you are choosing your paper planner, consider:
    • Some popular paper planner brands are Happy Planner, Purple Planner, Franklin Planner and Bullet Journal.
  • If you choose tech:
  • (For both, I will share more paper or tech tools as I find them! )
  • Or Consider the Blend!
    • Some people prefer to see their entire month at once so they prefer paper. You may run out of room, though, if your schedule is complicated or your daily to-do list is too itemized for a small block.
    • There is pleasure and feeling of accomplishment that some say only come from a pen-and-paper to do list!
    • Work versus home: One person mentioned that her personal to-do list was digital (and more portable that way) but that her daily work to-do list is comprised of sticky notes and those are client specific and stay at work!
    • I like the portability that comes from a digital list – I use Evernote and can call up and update a list on my phone, tablet or laptop and it stays current. Plus, I can share the list with others as needed.
    • On the other hand, I use a Bullet Journal for jotting down notes on the fly or for the pleasure of writing by hand lists, ideas or journal entries (then I copy them over to my digital to-do list).
    • What I really appreciate is how my FB community blended methods, like jotting down notes on paper (anything from old envelopes to a beautiful notebook with heavy paper) and then supporting those tasks with audible reminders or alarms on their tech. Clever!

As you plot your productivity and progress, consider what tools will help you set-up your To-Do list! Have a great week!

Routines Now To Avoid Emergencies Later!

Looking back at the last week or two, what are some of the hiccups in your day that really set you back? Small annoyances or big problems that slowed you down, made you cranky, threw off your schedule and your flow? 

Now, look again, and ask “Could this have been avoided?”   Some challenges can not be avoided, but many CAN BE avoided with some forward planning and good routines.

Last week, a friend / client mentioned that she liked last week’s article because there was NOT a call to action. 🙂  That made me laugh.  But this week, friends, is all about action.

Imagine how having routines that work for you can actually help you avoid emergencies.  It is possible.  When our needs are taken care of, we are more ready for whatever life brings us.

I am not here to tell you to do what I’ve done (ever!).  I’m sharing my routines as examples of how we choose to handle routine tasks to avoid inconveniences later.  These have been created over time in response to challenges.  So, Where Do You Stumble? and Imagine where routines could help you stumble less! 

Examples of routines to avoid personal inconveniences!

  • Know your re-stocking and re-order levels for regularly used products.
    • Weekly, I re-stock toilet paper and tissues and re-fill the hand-soaps at all the sinks in the house. 
    • Later this week, I will place my monthly order (first of the month) for my eco-friendly cleaning supplies that get delivered to my house. 
    • Same goes for grocery items which we now mostly have delivered.  We add items to the grocery orders when they are low, BEFORE we actually run out of stuff.
  • Handle regular maintenance tasks regularly.
  • Set up a schedule for bill-paying and personal business items.
    • Years ago, a client mentioned paying ALOT in late fees every month on his bills.  I asked him when he set time aside to pay bills and was met with a blank stare. We won’t look at budgeting and bill paying today, but I will say that scheduling time to regularly take care of personal business means we miss fewer deadlines, pay fewer late fees, spend less time on the phone with customer service, etc.
  • What other tasks can you make routine, to save you time later?
    • I fill up my gas tank once a week on a planned errand run (or when we travel, of course), so I don’t have to make unplanned stops.  Because as much as I used to tell myself I would remember in the morning to leave early and stop for gas on my way to work, I would forget.  

And what about, routines to avoid emergencies professionally? 

  • You know your work!  I will not assume to tell you how to do your job, but we can ask the same questions professionally that we ask personally:  Where do I stumble?  And How can I avoid the stumbles in the future? 
  • For example, Mondays and Tuesdays I am writing my article and newsletter, like today.  But Thursdays host a block of recurring tasks for my business. 
  • On Thursday mornings, I: do my bookkeeping and pay my bills; check in around upcoming presentations, confirming details and sending invoices; check in on my website comments and social media, etc.   All of these tasks keep me ahead of challenges and course corrections I need to make to keep things running smoothly.

On the other side of routines, I love the flexibility that comes when an emergency actually does arise.  Let’s say I or a family member gets sick, or I am called away out of town on short notice.  Perhaps my routine tasks don’t happen for a few days or even a week.  Guess what?  No biggee.  When we regularly take care of things, emergencies or blips in our schedules don’t throw us off too much.  

Your action items this week is to ask yourself:  Where Do I Stumble? Where could routines help me to stumble less!  Now, get busy crafting those routines to help you avoid emergencies tomorrow!

The Second Best Thing You Can Do With Your Stuff Is To Put It Away.

THE SECOND BEST THING YOU CAN DO WITH YOUR STUFF IS TO PUT IT AWAY. The best thing to do with your stuff is to use it, of course. And if you never use it, the third best thing to do would be to purge it / donate it / sell it, etc.

The Power of Away.

I spend time with clients putting things away. If they are new clients, perhaps we are establishing an “Away” or home for their stuff.

We are naming a dresser drawer the sock drawer. We are naming a shelf the coffee mug shelf. We are naming a cabinet the office supply cabinet. We are naming a closet My Clothes Closet. And that is where those items live.

If they are existing clients, perhaps we just need to maintain the organizing we completed before. Stuff migrates out with use, and that’s ok.

We are SUPPOSED to use our stuff. Otherwise, why do we have it?

We know, though, that when we use our stuff, it doesn’t (ever!) automatically put itself away and let’s face it, we can get distracted or forgetful and then our space is filled up with stuff. And it looks messy and we feel overwhelmed and out of control. I spent an appointment last week just putting summer things away. Simple really. Stuff needs a home, and stuff needs to be put away in its home if you ever hope to find it again.

Notice how I have not called the stuff we used and need to put away Clutter? Your stuff that you used and now needs to be put away is probably not clutter. Clutter is unused, unneeded or unloved. Your stuff that has been used is not clutter. They’re your belongings and you need to take care of them.

Establishing an “Away” for an item means that item is important. It means you plan to use it again some time in the future. That item is not clutter because you need it or use it or love it. And you put it away because… YOU WANT TO FIND IT AGAIN.

And there, right there, is the Power of Away. Being able to find your stuff again when you need it.

Your space looks better when your stuff is Away.

Your space is safer, with fewer things to trip over, when things are AWAY.

Your items last longer and stay in better condition when they are put AWAY.

Small pieces stay put, stuff doesn’t get dusty or dirty or sun-faded. Delicate items are protected. Sets are kept with sets. Shoes, socks and mittens stay with their mates.

AWAY doesn’t take long. Once you establish a home for your stuff, putting stuff away gets a lot easier. Doing it regularly means the piles don’t spread or get tall. Cleaning off your surfaces once a day or a couple times a week, and just putting clothes and books and papers and things way goes a long way to maintaining order.

As we talk about National Preparedness Month in September, the best way to prepare for any possibility is to set yourself up to act and react quickly and confidently. To find your stuff when you need it, should the need arise and a wildfire or hurricane comes or maybe you’re just called out of town and need to pack a quick bag. And putting your stuff AWAY so you can find it again is one of the best ways to prepare for ANYTHING life may toss your way.

Commit this week to just putting stuff away. A few extra moments when you finish using something, or a couple times a week to catch up. Small bits of time really add up when your stuff is maintained and your space is clear!

Plan Ahead: Find Your Personal Vital Records NOW, Before You Need Them.

It has been a crazy 6 months.

Pandemic? Sure.

But there’s more. A friend in West Hollywood shares early morning FB posts every time there is an earthquake. Many of us know folks affected by the wild fires – even our sky here in Illinois is gray with their smoke this week! And those are just the things we know about right now!

Talking to a friend today here in Chicago, she was thinking about what that would actually look like – having only a few moments, if any, to prepare to evacuate. What would we take?

That packing list would vary from person to person or situation to situation. But there are a few items that should be on that list, no matter what. Let’s talk about your Personal Vital Records.

This is one of those tough topics and some of you may feel a little uncomfortable – I’ll apologize in advance! But since I’ve been talking about National Preparedness Month, I need to spend a little time talking about our Personal Vital Records (PVR). If we are working on Being Prepared, we need to think about them and more importantly, be able to put our hands on them when we need them.

So, what are our Personal Vital Records? Wikipedia says:

Vital records are records of life events kept under governmental authority, including birth certificates, marriage licenses (or marriage certificates), and death certificates. In some jurisdictions, vital records may also include records of civil unions or domestic partnerships.

I would include additional items like social security cards, Baptismal certificates, copies of your Will and Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care, Finance, etc., your mortgage papers, titles to your cars, etc. Your pile of PVR is probably not big, but it is precious and important.

Very often, in terms of preparedness, we don’t know exactly what we are preparing for, but we know that some papers are really important to be able to produce in case of accident or illness or insurance, etc. And while replacing PVRs is not impossible, it can be a long and complicated process, so let’s just collect and protect them now while there isn’t an emergency, shall we?

Be Prepared by collecting and protecting your Personal Vital Records. Here’s how:

  • Establish a home for your PVR, even temporarily. If you have them tucked in various places (dresser drawers, jewelry boxes, desk drawers, file cabinets – any of these sound familiar?), collect them into one central location.
  • Label that location, and tell at least one other person know where the records are!
  • Invest in a portable fire-proof safe. Portable so you can take it with you if you need to leave in a hurry. Fire-proof because, well, yes, Fire. And a safe because it can be that one central location and can also protect your items. We received a safe and a fire extinguisher from a friend as a wedding gift. Brilliant! Safes are not very expensive and are an excellent investment.
  • And, again, as you establish a place or a safe to hold your PVR, make sure at least one other person (maybe even one outside of your home) knows where the safe and keys (separate) are.
  • As you go through your day to day life, if you run across one of these PVRs, be sure to put it in its’ established home. For example, maybe you pulled a birth certificate out recently to copy and hand in to school for your student’s enrollment – pull it out of the random school papers on the counter and tuck it into your newly established Personal Vital Records folder or safe.

Take this simple step this week, and add to Personal Vital Records as you find them. When the time comes that you DO need to put your hands on one of them, you’ll be grateful you took the step!

The Shower Gel Survey, July 2020 (Shopping Best Practices)

I would happily NEVER RUN ANOTHER ERRAND AGAIN. It seems like an impossible goal, but a girl can dream, right?

Here’s something funny – the idea for this article, along with the original working title (the first line above), were in my draft folder from June, 2019. Look where we are now! I shop so much more on-line now than I did a year ago!

Truth is, I have happily made the switch to on-line shopping for essentials and non-essentials. I really don’t like to shop, especially not in-person. Even after we are through this pandemic tunnel, I will still use on-line fulfillment for essentials and as many non-essentials as possible.

Just to clarify, and thanks to my Facebook tribe for chiming in:

  • Essentials = groceries, toiletries, household items
  • Non-essentials = everything else
  • I am applying this broadly, just for today.  Because the walking shoes I bought on-line were essential to me, but I don’t consider them “essentials”. 

There are rules or Best Practices to shop by, regardless of how you choose to shop or what it is you’re buying. I’m going to list them all together, and then explain each.

  • Stick with your list. Know your needs.
  • Know what you need and don’t get distracted by “shiny”.
  • Know your time line.
  • Know where you typically source your essentials from. 
  • Know where you typically source your essentials from, but have a plan B.
  • Have at least a vague idea of your current prices for essentials.
  • Realize that, at least at first, there is a learning curve and setting up an account and a habit will take time.
  • For non-essential purchases, be aware of return policies. And be ready to actually complete the returns.
  • The obvious, and a topic for another day: know your budget.

 




Stick with your list. / Know your needs.
I have a master grocery list in a spread sheet (email me and I’ll share it with you as an example). I print out 5 copies at a time, and leave one posted on the white board in the kitchen.

This single sheet has an area with grocery items listed that I buy regularly (which I usually buy in person or, recently, on-line from Jewel), Costco items, Target / Amazon items (household and toiletries) and Melaleuca items (cleaning).  Just this week, I also made space in the corner of it for notes on this week’s Menu Planning.

We add items to the list as we use them up or identify a need (well, “need” is occasionally gummy bears or tortilla chips, but I digress). In addition to using the list like a regular list, I also use it to inventory things I purchase regularly and make sure I have these essentials on hand. I have it next to me as I place on-line orders, or I take it with me when I shop in person.

In this strange time, it’s more important than ever that I plan my shopping efficiently so I don’t have to run back out for something because I’m still trying to socially distance. Thank you, List!


Stick with your list / Know your needs AND don’t get distracted by “shiny”.


Learn to say “No, thank you” even just in your head.

We all know that impulse shopping happens when we stand in line at a store. Cookies next to the check out are? Why, yes, certainly, don’t mind if I do.

But impulse shopping happens on-line, as well. Ordering one package of cookies? It’s just as easy to hit the “+” button. OR, ordering sneakers? “While you’re here on our website, perhaps you also need new socks with your new sneakers?” (Nope, got some, thanks.) Or “A good pair of sneakers – maybe you would also like some flip-flops, too?” (never). Amazon’s ploy – “Shoppers who bought that item also bought these 47 other items, perhaps you’d like to buy them, too?” No, thank you.

Keep your eye on the prize – fulfilling your needs and completing the transaction – and steer away from those impulse buys.



Know your time line.

If you need an item for Thursday morning, best not to wait to shop in-person until Wednesday night. The same goes for on-line shopping – be aware of how long a shipped item may take to arrive or what your delivery options are, and then add a day at least for just in-case! (And BTW, what ever happened to that dress I ordered three weeks ago?! Ugh…)

Know where you typically source your items from. AND Have a Plan B.

I was using Target Restock for pantry items like toilet paper, paper towels, some cleaning supplies, etc., every 3 weeks until things went crazy back in March and now they no longer offer the service. In stricter shelter-in-place times, I bought some of those items with my weekly groceries though they were more expensive, just for convenience. Most recently, we’ve been transitioning to Amazon for household items and toiletries.

Hence, the shower gel photo and title. As we transition to Amazon, we have to find new favorites. The Solimo brand shower gels are a better deal when you buy them by the 6-pack, but we don’t know which type we like best yet. So, we bought one of each. The wasted space on this drives me buggy, but I know it is for a good cause! We’ll try them all, pick our fave, and purchase in bulk.

For most items that I buy, I have at least a couple different vendors where I can purchase them, so I can bundle my purchases as needed. This is where the grocery list mentioned above is just SOOO handy! What if there is a sale, or someone is running an in-person errands and can pick up items? Or your typical source is out of your item?

Let’s say I usually body wash from Amazon, but my husband mentioned he needs to go to Menard’s, and I know Menard’s carries body wash at a reasonable price, saving me the need to order them.

Ah, Menard’s. Where else can you buy a new toilet flapper mechanism for home toilet repair AND shampoo AND DampRid AND dishwasher tablets AND garbage disposal tablets AND beef jerky AND Wylers raspberry drink packets (my husbands’s recent Menard’s list)? I realize, as I type this list, why my husband went alone to Menard’s and kept his own list. He knows I won’t buy most of the items on that list. (DampRid, dishwasher tablets, garbage disposal tablets? Yeah, nope).

The point is, Know your “Typical” but be ready for a plan B.




Have at least a vague idea of your current prices.

I placed an on-line grocery order last Friday. On Saturday, we took a planned (every 3 or 4 weeks) trip to Costco. The bag of our favorite tortilla chips I ordered from Jewel (approx. 3.79 for 14 oz) didn’t arrive. But the 3 lb bag of still-good Kirkland brand tortilla chips at Costco? Also $3.79.

Yes, please!

There are some things I don’t mind buying in bulk for the lower price point, but that is why it’s helpful to know what is a good deal or not.

Check out this article from Kiplingers about the best things to buy at Costco.

From this list, we buy bacon, chicken stock, diced tomatoes, gas, rotisserie chicken and tortilla chips. We also buy cascade brand pods from there, looks like we’ll make a switch the next time we need them. Some things listed are never on my grocery list anyway, like Italian sparkling water, vitamin water, vodka or wine, or – well – the cheese wheel (I kid you not) so I’m not missing them!



Realize that, at least at first, there is a learning curve and setting up an account and a habit will take time.

To quote a friend, “I realized recently that I am not giving this category the proper time respect that it deserves. Because I’m no longer leaving the house to acquire things we need, I have deluded myself into thinking this somehow does not take any time!” (thanks, J!)

3 months ago, it took me hours to set up my account and them populate a cart for on-line grocery ordering. Now it takes no time at all. Same goes for Amazon – setting up my standard shopping lists took time, but now taking care of my orders are a breeze.



For non-routine purchases, be aware of return policies. And be ready to actually complete the returns.



So, how are you shopping differently these days? And which of these tips resonated with you? Let me know!