I’ll Never Be A Secret Agent (And I’m OK With That). Or, this article could also be titled “How being organized and predictable makes me a better mom, driver, dry cleaner customer and person.”
I have been thinking a lot about time management lately, to prepare for 2 productivity presentations.
My sons and I like to watch “NCIS LA” together, it’s one of our favorite shows. The characters, the agents, often discuss how they vary their schedule every day – rarely stopping at the same coffee shop or taking the same route to work, all in the interest of their personal and professional safety. For them, having a predictable routine could encourage an attack, so they shake it up every day.
I, on the other hand, am apparently predictable. Or so says my son. Last week on his birthday, he and some fellow band students stayed late to help with an evening event. I let his band director know that I would bring cupcakes for the kids who stayed late, to help my son celebrate. It’s a good thing I did, too, because when I mentioned it to my son, he said “I sort of expected it, Mom, you did it last year for the same reason, I figured you would do it this year, too. You’re kind of predictable like that.”
Predictable sounds rather dull, but finding out that predictable means I consistently do nice things for my son and he knows he can count on me makes me think predictable is pretty great.
I stopped by the dry cleaners this morning, to drop off my husband’s work clothes.
The nice lady I see every week at the Cleaners: “Good morning. You’re early today!”
Me: “Yes, lots of people to see and things to do”.
Nice lady: “And you’re dressed for working, you must have people to help.”
Me: “Yes! No jeans or skirts today!” Then….
Nice lady: “6 pants and 5 shirts this week? Did your husband buy some new pants?”
Me: “Why yes, yes he did.” Then, at the end….
Nice Lady: “See you next Monday!”
This is typical. And as I think about it, being consistent and predictable in my errand running has made it really easy for my Cleaners to take good care of me (and she really is a very nice lady!!). Interesting.
My oldest son is learning to drive. Lately, many conversations center on the logistics of driving, but also the spirit of driving. For example, on the expressway yesterday, we talked about how important it is for all the drivers on the road to follow the rules. The three lanes of expressway traffic flow much better when slow cars stick to the right lanes, and when the left lane is used solely for passing. Other drivers depend on us to follow rules and be predictable in our actions, so they can make their decisions, too.
So, looking at my three examples, and taking a metaphorical leap:
- Being predictably organized make it easy for my kids and family members to count on me;
- Being predictably consistent improves my relationship with others, to our mutual benefit; and
- Acting predictably makes for a safer and more positive flow in life. Unless you are a secret agent.
- (I suppose I could be predictably bad, too, if I never showed up for stuff or did things consistently wrong, but that’s not today’s topic.)
Now, I know some instances in life require spontaneity and creativity, and I can step up with both of those, too, I am not advocating only predictable and organized behavior. I am recommending, however, that you spend a little time today and this week considering how creating and maintaining routines and predictability could improve your performance or relationships. Meeting the same friend or co-worker for a weekly chat, consistently getting your work submitted ahead of time, creating routines for making everyone’s day less stressful and more enjoyable. Sounds pretty good to me! So, I’m ok with never being a secret agent. I have other things to do.