The Day the Bags Come Home

Summer relaxes our daily routine, and brings opportunities to work on organizing projects.  Paper is always an issue, but working on kid and school papers in the summer offers the rare opportunity of cleaning papers off the desk or kitchen counter, and having them stay gone for a few months!  Yeah!!

     In less than 2 weeks, it will happen.  You know, IT.  That Day, the one where the contents of your child(ren)’s desk and classroom comes home in bags from school.  Ugh.  But we can handle this, I promise!  When the bags arrive, take half an hour and WITH YOUR CHILD’S ASSISTANCE:  

  1. Purge garbage immediately. 
  2. Review school supplies, set aside those items that can be used all summer or next year, and trash the rest (knowing you all will want some new things for Back-To-School. 
  3. Set aside the rest in a bin or bag, and put a date on the calendar for another hour with your child to review it.  If you are feeling really inspired, tackle this step right now, but we often want to go play on the first day of summer.

In a few weeks, when that scheduled hour arrives and you have both gained distance and perspective on the school year, decide what papers stay and what papers go.  The school papers fall into 4 or 5 categories:

  1. Tests and assessments: SAVE A FEW, especially the official reports from state testing.  And you can keep really big and meaningful projects, like book reports or essays. 
  2. Achievements, awards and progress reports: SAVE MOST, and just the last progress report if it is cumulative.  And there probably won’t be more than 10 or 15 of these.
  3. Daily school work and home work:  TOSS!
  4. Art and craft projects: TAKE PICTURES of big ones THEN PURGE the projects; save a few small ones.  If you struggle with all the Art, try: Creating a gallery on a clothes line strung across the bedroom with clips for papers; Creating a magnet wall with magnetic paint and a border, and clean it off once a month; buying a grouping of inexpensive frames, and swap out pictures every week or month.  Your little Picasso is wonderful, of course, but not every piece is a masterpiece.
  5. Other business of school (unless it is about the next Academic School Year): TOSS!

ACADEMIC BINDER:

     The important stuff in the first 2 categories goes into the Academic Binder.  Each child has an Academic Binder begun in preschool, with testing assessments (MAPS and ISATS), end-of-year grade reports, class pictures, award certificates, event programs for band and choir, special notes from teachers, etc.  My oldest recently completed an application for entrance into National Junior Honor Society.  He had to list awards and service projects from the current and past school years.  All the information he needed was in the Binder and it was huge help in putting together his application.  He enjoyed flipping through it, too.  When we start applying for high school honors and scholarships next year, we’ll be ready to go!

(Click here for a past blog on creating Binders)   and (Click here for past blogs on more Paper Management Topics)

Daily School Work and Art:

     My middle son would keep every paper he ever touched if I let him (But I don’t).  Some rainy summer day, we will go through this year’s school papers and whittle the big pile down to his true treasures:  reports or essays, big projects, math tests that earned him his math medal, etc.  We’ll wrap the keepers with a rubber band, or in a 9×13 envelope labeled with name, date and grade.  We’ll take pictures of any large or 3D art projects, and keep just the pictures.  We have a plastic box on the shelf with past years bundled in it already, and this year will be added to the top.  We have yet to review any past years, but he likes to know we kept some stuff and I respect his wishes (with limits).

Stuff as Treasures:

     Boundaries and limits are needed in the amount of papers and treasures you keep for your child.  With babies, we want to keep favorite outfits or toys or books, and keepsakes like greeting cards and growth records of course.  As the kids get older, they start to generate more keepsakes, like handmade mother’s day cards or pre-school papers, and they start to value stuff on their own, like event tickets or “treasures” like toys or balloons, etc.  Now that my boys are older, they choose to keep or toss their own stuff, in addition to stuff I deem necessary to keep, like grade reports and programs from their shows and concerts, and things.

            So, try for a sweater box size of keepsakes per year (OR LESS), regardless of what is in the box.  We keep less and less these days as keepsakes, but my boys accumulate their own “stuff” now.   Are you keeping things for you to review in 20 years, or for your child to review in 20 years?  There is no wrong answer, but if you think you are keeping things from them, ask yourself what you would want to keep from your own childhood (tip: NOT piles of old homework papers).

      As you keep papers or other treasures, WRITE A NOTE about the paper or item and leave it in the box for your child to read when he or she gets older, so you both remember in 20 years why you kept an item.  We like to see some things from our childhood, but we don’t want to be burdened with an attic full of things we don’t remember.  And always remember that activities and time spent together will be more important to your child than any stuff you may keep.

So, block out a little time in the next month to review those kid papers, purge most of them, and set some aside as to keep and treat as treasure.  And enjoy a few months with a clear kitchen counter or in-basket!

Emergencies Happen. How to Offer and Ask for Help.

     Even an organized life can get complicated sometimes, and emergencies happen.  Not just big emergencies, like towns getting washed or blown away recently by tornadoes or flood waters, God bless those people, or major life altering events.  Even life’s little emergencies can rock our worlds. 

     Sometimes these events happen to us and sometimes to people we know.  And I am always moved and humbled by how people persevere in the face of adversity, and how others lend a hand to those in need. 

      The best time to think about “What to do in an emergency” is when you are not actually in an emergency.  In times of trouble, you and your loved ones are most important.  But clarity, focus and perspective are some of the first things to go when life get complicated.  I have a hard time asking for help, but I also struggle with how to help others in their rough times.  What does Help look like?  Here are some suggestions:

Have A Go-To Plan, for you and to help others:

  • I use checklists because in crunch times, stress goes up and my focus goes out the window.
  • We have Packing check lists for travel for the kids, the adults, air-travel, car travel, etc. 
  • One of my favorite tools is a 3×5 laminated index card with Going Out Of Town tasks on it (wash dishes, close all windows, water the plants, etc.).  I walk through the tasks every time I leave town, so I never wonder if I unplugged the coffee pot or closed the windows.   I use a dry erase marker to check things off (and I will share this more fully in a June blog!).
  • Make sure someone else has a key to your house.
  • Have a standard Drop Off meal:
    • I have a pasta casserole that I have dropped off to dozens of houses over the years for friends and family who could use a meal.  I will call ahead and ask not “if” they would like the meal, but when.  As in – I am bringing over dinner at 5 pm, do you want it hot and ready to eat, or ready to chill and eat tomorrow?
    • During a family tragedy a few years ago, my sister-in-law stopped by with breakfast – bagels, cream cheese and fruit.  Great idea, and so appreciated. 
  • Trip to Jewel for Basics:  This list is on an envelope with cash in it, waiting in the drawer:  Skim Milk, Wheat Bread, 10 bananas, 1 3 lb bag red gala apples, cookies and snacks for lunches.
  • Remember Phone Trees?  Some communication can happen via email, or Facebook if the info is not too personal.  But the most important part is creating the contact list ahead of time, of who should be contacted in an emergency.   Just like the ICE contact in your cell phone, also have a ICE email list in your address book.

Know your strengths and weaknesses, and be specific in your Request or Offer.

  • Families with kids:  Request or Offer to
    • Take over car-pool duties this week
    • Have younger kids over for a play date
    • Ask for or offer day care services
    • If you have older children:  Send them over to help a friend to fold laundry, mow the grass, walk the dog, take out the trash, etc.
    • Your emergency:
      • Know what only you can do and what can be done by someone else or not at all.  What can only you do, and what can be delegated?
    • Someone else’s emergency:
      • If you need me, I will offer you skills I possess.  Organizing, cooking, transportation, kid and pet care, prayer and music.  Please don’t ask me to paint your house or organize your photos.

Focus on Survival and Maintenance. 

  • Let Progress go, at least for right now.  When I prioritize most days, I make sure survival is covered (food/clothing/shelter), then move on to Maintenance. 
  • When we are in emergencies, or helping others with their emergencies, we have to go back to Survival.  Click here for a related blog from 2010:  Quick – Where are your Keys?  Your Cell Phone?
  • The second level priorities are for Maintenance:
    • Laundry, scheduling, school, transportation, etc.  
    • What is necessary to maintain your current life should you be called away or knocked flat with an illness, etc.?  What are your roles?  What do you specifically do at home?  Keep those “Bills To Pay” in one location, known to you and at least one other person.  Share enough info to maintain your bills and banking, food prep and management, laundry, home maintenance, etc. 
    • Keep up to date with your contacts and address info, in one central location.  I carry my phone, but it is synchronized with my laptop daily, and my hubby has access to the laptop and our schedule if I am gone.

       So in a quiet moment this week, say a prayer for those facing emergencies right now and be grateful for all the good things in your life.  Then, grab a notebook or sit down at your computer and think through some of these questions and jot down ways you can ask for help next time you need it, or offer help to someone in your life.  

      Here is a great link to Real Simple, some handy check lists / sheets to print up and keep, for you and for others to use.