This past week, my son and I did a clean sweep of his bedroom. The room is usually clean, but periodically we all need to review our stuff and our space, so that is what we did! We reviewed toys, books and clothes. We kept a lot, purged some and re-allocated a bit, and it looks and feels great in there now!
So, the first question is “How do we organize a bedroom?” And the other part is the kid-specific part – “How do we organize with our kids?”
I like organizing with kids. Like all of us, they like to share details about what is important to them. In addition, organizing with kids gives them an opportunity to share their opinions about stuff and space which gives them a sense of control and ownership in the organizing process. They are receptive to new ideas, too! Here’s what you do….
- Clear 2-4 hours in the schedule, dependent on your schedule and your child’s age and attention span.
- With your child, determine destinations for the purge items and label bags accordingly. The paper bags lined up in my son’s room are labeled “garbage”, “recycle”, “sell”, “donate – toys”, “donate – library”, clothes for “swap.com” and for cousin “Joshua”. A garage sale could be a destination, too.
- Start a pile of “go elsewhere in our home” items by the door, including dirty laundry, to maintain focus and avoid running items here and there during your project time.
- Grab a notebook to jot down ideas and to-dos as they occur to you (“buy new sneakers for school”, “return borrowed toy to xxxxx’s house”)
- Start small; really small. Everyone gets overwhelmed at times. If you are feeling overwhelmed and snarky about the bedroom project, imagine how your child must feel. Tackle small spaces one by one instead of all together. My son and I started with 2 storage cubes, then book case, then toy box, then closet. And I reviewed his clothes while he made decisions about toys and books. We tackled our project based on Julie Morgenstern’s SPACE method of organizing.
- Sort what you have: We sort toys and books based on type and clothes based on size and season.
- Purge items to your various destinations. We purge based on condition, developmental age, size and season and / or interest level. Give yourself or your child a chant to help review items and stay focused. For example, I worked with a young man last week who was deciding what to do with his books. His repeated question was” Keep, sell, give to sister? Keep, sell, sister?” Over and over, with each book.
- We Assign a home to and Containerize the items we keep. Quite often, items go right back where they came from, especially clothes to the closet and dresser, or books to the bookshelf. But tackling these projects presents a great opportunity to re-think your storage! We took this opportunity to move a toy sorter out of the closet and into the basement for use with the Legos, and moving the sorter out of the closet opened up lots of space for other things.
- “Equalize” is the fifth step in Morgentstern’s SPACE, and is a fancy word for maintenance. So we equalize every time we tidy up, throw out papers, donate outgrown or beat-up clothes, etc.
Specifically, organizing with kids
- Let the papers go. No, really, let them go. The grades are complete, homework is done. Let the papers go. Keep a few items from each year, but I guarantee you, your child will not care about every paper ever produced much past junior high. Handing him or her bins full of old paper when he or she starts their own home will not be appreciated.
- Cultivate giving and purging from birth. My boys are used to purging old clothes, and donating used toys and clothes. It’s a good habit to form.
- Provide a plastic container (sweater size, 6-12 qt size) for treasures. But no larger than that.
- Grab your camera, to take pictures of large art projects so you can purge the project without losing the memory. A picture of the catapult they made in class takes up a lot less space than the actual catapult!
So, take courage and spend some time organizing with your kids this week! The bedroom will look better, you will learn some new things about your child, and you will both cultivate your organizing habits!