Over the weekend, I spent some quiet travel time on a time management consultation on …..me!
You see, I went back to high school last week. I’m not wearing the uniform or walking the halls, which is good since it’s an all-boy’s school, but let me tell you, I am still getting an education! My son started high school, and I am learning to navigate it as a parent. I re-learned some life lessons this week. We don’t always have to learn new lessons, often we need to be reminded of what we already know. To help you conquer time management challenges at work or at home, let me share what I re-learned this week:
Ask “What are we trying to achieve with improved Time Management?”
In our case, encouraging independence and responsibility, but also balance and stress reduction for my awesome over-achieving son (though I think I was more stressed than he was). Let the answer to that question guide the rest of your actions.
Pare down your schedule to just essentials.
Let me ask you: If your schedule is insane, what habits are you willing to leave behind, to make room for the important essentials? Less TV, shopping, Angry Birds or Where’s My Water, Facebook and surfing the web, etc?
For the teenager, TV, hanging out and reading for pleasure late into the night may just have to wait.
Get sleep and good nutrition.
This is critical to all of us, not just teenagers. Going to bed at a regular time, and making sure your body is fueled with good food empowers us to do more with better focus.
Have the Right Stuff, and Only the right stuff.
My question to you – what do you need to get out of the way, out of your office or home to simplify your life?
Organize your stuff to streamline your time management. My guy still stumbles over getting dressed and out the door in proper uniform. This evening, we (he doesn’t know this yet!) are going to clean off his dresser top except for the stuff he is currently and actively using. We all need to get back in the habit of packing sports and band bags the night before, too, to decrease the last minute scramble.
Ask for help.
Regardless of what challenge you have, remember you are not alone, and you don’t always have to be the expert. I need to re-learn this lesson every week because I am terrible at asking for help, and therefore get overwhelmed when faced with a task I don’t know how to complete. I know I am capable and smart enough to learn, but it feels like it may take FOREVER to get it done.
High school introduced many new, unfamiliar high-tech tools like on-line homework, text books, bulletin boards, etc., and they all required some set up. My good and tech-savvy husband, the expert in this case, and the teenager spent most of an afternoon getting everything set up all at once, so now we’re good to go. We just needed to ask the expert.
What is your challenge, and who can be your expert?
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
For the sake of time management, if you need to get something done and someone else is involved in the process, you have to communicate well to get things done. We’ve had a couple of communication snafus over the last 10 days. I had a piece of paper he needed, he forgot to tell us about a team event parents were expected to attend, etc.
I was reminded in an article this morning that good leaders use multiple means of communication, all the tools available, really, to get their message across. So, if you want to increase communications with an individual or group to get things done effectively, find methods they already like and use.
In my son’s case, those methods are texting and using his student planner. I suggested that my son text me as he remembers something I need to know, or jot it down in his planner if it’s during school hours. And I admitted to him that I have to write stuff down all the time because I just don’t remember stuff unless I write it down.
Learn from my experience! And tell me, what lessons do you find yourself re-learning? Please share, I would like to know! You could be in my next blog?