In a recent Finish Line Friday session, one of my regular participants mentioned she was working on “The Smalls” during our time together. She explained that it was the end of a very busy week. She had been home long enough between events and appointments to make piles but not to put away the piles. She said “Every room had a pile of smalls.”
And the other participants nodded understandingly because we’ve all been there. Regularly!
That always makes me smile. Not because someone is struggling, but because most of us understand what “The Smalls” means.
And because the words – The Smalls – sound funny to me and many people express frustration about The Smalls, in sometimes passionate and colorful language! For example, I have another friend and client who, when I ask her what we’re working on today, will occasionally say “The Smalls, Coll! It’s The Smalls!” with perhaps some frustration and colorful words!
Here’s the thing:
The Smalls can be physical things in our spaces.
They can be a jumble of papers on the kitchen counter, the pile of Lego bits, Barbie shoes and puzzle pieces at the bottom of a bin of toys, or the contents of an everything drawer in the kitchen. (I personally don’t call them junk drawers, because if you call it a junk drawer, guess what ends up inside?) If the person I mentioned in my first example is like me, the smalls in every room that she mentioned are bag contents from meetings and events, random clothing items or shoes at the back door that have been cycled through and now need to be put away, neglected amazon boxes and mail at the front door, etc.
Bear in mind, none of these items is technically clutter. They are all things we obviously need, use or love – they just need tended to.
But they pile and they distract and they call out to us for attention and energy.
Which leads me to – The Smalls can be thoughts and ideas in our brains.
“Small” doesn’t indicate importance, or in the definition of “small”, perhaps un-importance, but instead their size. “The Smalls” means that SO MANY MORE can fit in a space. Like I have 100 ideas or to-dos or tasks in my brain and they’re all crammed in there making each look small. And they’re all clamoring to get out!
Some of the challenges with The Smalls, either on the kitchen counter or in our brain:
- There are MANY.
- They aren’t just clutter. They are likely important and require care and attention.
- Right now, they are unsorted and un-categorized.
- They are not prioritized in order of importance.
- We believe that the small are important. And we don’t want them to get lost.
- We fear The Smalls will get lost. We fear that brilliant blog post idea that just came to us will disappear, then we worry about that so long that it does disappear, or we forget other things while we spend mental energy on trying to REMEMBER EVERYTHING!
- The Smalls DO get lost, and then we forget appointments, emergencies happen, feelings are hurt, etc.
Another regular participant in my Finish Lind Friday productivity sessions has used great imagery when we talk about what we plan to accomplish that day.
Imagine a room full of helium balloons with strings attached.
Now, gesture with your hands to collect those strings. That is what she is often working on, on a Friday. Gathering loose ends, she calls it, with that gesture. Gathering them together.
And a coaching client, in our time working together, even created her own Loose Ends List, to collect The Smalls and all the other ideas / thoughts / tasks that occur to her and then require completion.
I want to applaud all four people that I have mentioned – they identify The Smalls, they identified the need to consistently collect The Smalls, and they have habits and ways to collect and deal with them.
Two Big Ideas this week.
In the interest of writing this article this week, I opened up my copy of “Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity” by David Allen, thinking I needed to re-read it to write this article. And I am … proud? Relieved? Yes, those feelings and more, to find out that since I read this book many years ago, I implemented and am still doing many of the things he talks about (and he talks about them clearly and concisely and the book is totally worth the read.) And I can do better, and I will share more about this book and his process in future podcasts and articles.
First big idea, this is a great book, check it out (and I mean, actually check it out of your local library – no need to buy it!).
To get started, though, in Getting Things Done, David Allen talks about collection. How first, we need to COLLECT all the thoughts and ideas in our head and get them out of our head and into a more user friendly, time specific, prioritized form. He mentioned, among other things, a Mind Sweep.
Others call it a Brain dump, though I find that an inelegant phrase. My friend Jen recommended Cranial Cleanse when I asked my community for a better term for Brain Dump.
Whatever we call it, Mind Sweep or Cranial cleanse, it is a great place to start.
And it requires a place to put the collected items. For me, that means my Bullet Journal first, to collect items. Then I insert them into my master to – do list to prioritize and take action.
But let’s talk about the collecting. I no longer do a cranial cleanse like David Allen recommends, as in, an event, because it is a constant process for me – I am ALWAYS doing a cranial cleanse.
For example, when I am working or out running errands, thoughts occur to me, like an idea or a task that needs completed, and I quickly jot it down.
Because…
Have You Noticed? Another problem is that very often a thought or idea or task occurs to us at a moment when we do not have time to act on it.
This
Happens
To
Me
All
The
Time.
I have noticed that certain events generate more thoughts and ideas. For example, when I am driving.
When driving, my brain is focused on driving but also open to outside stimuli (which is a good thing while driving), subsequently ideas often come to me while I drive. OR while I cook, or while I’m in the shower.
This goes back to the recent podcast and newsletter that talks about If I Don’t Write It Down, It Doesn’t Exist.
The other side of that is, If I don’t capture and collect the ideas when they occur, they continue to float around in my brain with nowhere to go, and that makes things very crowded up there with all The Smalls!
My suggestion, then, for all of this week – the Second Big Idea – is to have a trusted place to collect the ideas and cultivate a habit of collecting them.
I love my Bullet Journal, and that will be a live webinar sometime soon to look at how to make Bullet Journaling happen for you – but the take away is that I have ONE PLACE to write things down.
It goes with me everywhere.
It is always ready to collect the ideas and safely hold on to them. To get all The Smalls out of my brain so there is room and space to actually get some work done.
And then I have the regular daily habit of reviewing those ideas, prioritizing and activating those ideas and putting them into my master-to-do list or on the calendar, etc.
We can’t avoid The Smalls, and really, we don’t want to. The Smalls are where it’s at, sometimes! The genius is in The Smalls! But not when all of the Smalls are cramped together in our brain.
We need the habit of moving The Smalls out of our brain and into a trusted collector. And then the habit of prioritizing and acting on them, too! This is how we get things done.